Jekyll & Hyde

Devaluing

To the outside world [narcissists] wear a mask, happy and charming, descriptions of narcissistic personality disorder don't begin describe the things that thier victims are stunned and confused in daily interaction with narcissists.

The victim is kept off balance, the narcissist displayed his false self in the beginning, (charming phase to gain the trust of victim) now starts the D&D phase (devalue and discard), in the beginning small devaluing comments and eventually cruel and heartless manipulations. They are absolutely the world's best manipulators, liars, and fabricators of truth. They do so convincingly because they believe their own lies.

Victims often view it as this poor soul just needs to see more empathy since the narcissist has manipulated them from the start with claims that they have been helpful to others in past and were victims in the end, so they are not trusting and helpful now. It's often the supply's good qualities that the narcissist sadly uses against them.

After an episode of devaluing, they quickly reel into reverse, they manipulate you to feel sorry for them again, they turn on charm and suck you right back in to regain your trust, the word "sorry" does not exist in their vocabulary because empathy does not exist in their world, they have no remorse, because people are merely objects to use, devalue and discard. Eventually they feel bored and create more drama, the emotional roller coaster ride for the victim starts all over again.

Caged