Saturday, April 28, 2007

Nasty People

Nasty People:
How to Stop Being Hurt by Them
Without Becoming One of Them

by Jay Carter

ISBN: 076072766X
ISBN-13: 9780760727669

Book Description

How to spot and conquer nasty behavior. Learn the secrets of handling these people by using everything from humor to confrontation.

Surefire methods to neutralize the nasty people in your life

Have you been hurt, betrayed, or degraded by a nasty person? Perhaps it's your boss, your parent, or your spouse. Whoever it is, he or she is an invalidator who feeds on your self-esteem, mental anguish, and unhappiness. But you can stop this cycle of abuse and put an end to sneak attacks on your soul--without resorting to nasty tactics.

In this updated bestselling guide to staying sane while dealing with difficult people, Jay Carter, Psy.D., calls upon decades of practice and observation to offer proven strategies for avoiding toxic relationships. With straight-talking advice, real-life anecdotes, and psychology that makes sense, Dr. Carter gives you the surefire tricks and techniques you need to:

* Identify the invalidators in your life
* Protect your sanity
* Use humor to get out of the blame game
* Conquer self-doubt
* Stop invalidating yourself
* Confront emotional bullies
* See the bigger picture
* Reclaim the captain's seat of your soul

Customer Reviews

A reviewer, A reviewer, 11/14/2005
This is simply one of the best books I have ever read in my life. It is short and to the point and if you apply what he says it will save you a lot of heartache. I am now reading this book for the second time, my God it is so right on. It is practical and can be easily understood. Thank God for Jay Carter!

slam, in marketing/sales/training, 04/06/2004
I lived it!
I have been on the receiving end of a nasty person. This book is a guide on how you can see the signs and take action before it is too late. Quick and easy read!

A reviewer, A reviewer, 09/24/2003
A MUST-HAVE book for everyone
As someone who just resigned from a job I liked and needed because of an invalidating boss, I can tell you this book hits the nail on the head. The examples given are exactly what I experienced-almost word for word. How invalidation makes you feel and what can be done about invalidation are also right on. Mr. Carter provides the big picture of how and why people behave badly-particularly the more subtle and undermining things that victims may not recognize. You get the whole forest and not just a tree or two. The book is empowering to the invalidator as well as the invalidated. I am so grateful Jay Carter wrote it and wish I had this information decades ago. It would have saved me so much pain, bewilderment, time, and money. I intend to buy more copies for gifts.

A reviewer, A reviewer, 05/19/2003
This book is dead on.
This book is a must read. I have had a problem with a nasty person who drove me to become a nasty person and now I know why. I have shared this book with many friends and they plan on getting their own copy. I plan on sharing it with the nasty person and maybe they will have the same eye opening experience that I have had.

A reviewer, A reviewer, 04/29/2003
thank god for this book
I enjoyed this book very much. I learned how to deal with my monster in-law, who is a nasty person but who is a nice person deep down. I learned how to deal with her without hurting her feelings or becoming a nasty person myself.

Margaret Rummens (, a teacher, 05/29/2002
I'm not a nasty person
My sister loved this book because one of her co-workers is mean to her. Of course my sister now knows that if you use this book to label someone else, the book is for you. I read it thinking that I was guilty of being mean to others ... only to find out that if you have to be invalidated a lot to think this way. A great book.

Mindy, a happy person from Kansas, 05/06/2002
A book that gets you to put your feet in other peoples shoes
I liked this book. Lately I have been feeling very uneasy with people, and now that I have read this book I am ready to live a happy life and stop keeping stress (stress caused by others or stress that was caused by being mean and my conscience set in!) bottled-up or exploding on innocent people!