Thursday, May 17, 2007

Take the Bully by the Horns

Take the Bully by the Horns: Stop Unethical, Uncooperative, or Unpleasant People from Running and Ruining Your Life

by Sam Horn

ISBN: 0312320221
ISBN-13: 9780312320225

From the Publisher
How often have you wished you knew how to defuse the difficult people who wreak havoc on your life? Whether it's a neighbor who keeps disturbing your peace, an employer who manipulates you into unpaid overtime, a spouse who criticizes and controls your every move, a colleague who uses scare tactics to intimidate you, or a student who teases your child without mercy, Take the Bully by the Horns will give you real-life strategies stop people from taking advantage of you, including how to:

* Adopt a "don't you dare" attitude

* Refuse to play The Blame-Shame Game

* Beat em to the punch...line

* Stop paying the price of nice

* Put all kidding aside

* Act on your anger instead of suffering in silence

* Savior Self from martyrs and guilt-mongers

* Not be victimized by crazy-making Jekyll/Hyde personalities

* Adopt the Clarity Rules and Rights

With these tools, you can take back your peace of mind and your sanity. The bold suggestions in Take the Bully by the Horns will show you once and for all how to convince unfair or unkind relatives, co-workers, customers, or strangers to either behave cooperatively or leave you alone.

From The Critics

Publishers Weekly
The subtitle of Horn's treatise indicates just how much psychological ground he manages to cover in this encouraging how-to. Not just for kids on the playground anymore, bullying can have serious consequences for adults: violence, lawsuits, abuse and even death. Many of the "28 Ways to Lose Your Bully" strategies Horn (Tongue Fu) outlines are common sense, the same advice parents might give children after a rough recess: "Put Up a Brave Front," "Get Out of My Space," "Screw Up Your Courage." The number of mini-quizzes and aphoristic sayings make the book read like a large-scale PowerPoint presentation (not surprising, as Horn is a veteran of the corporate seminar circuit). Yet there's a realism here that is convincing: Horn's example situations include spouses who hit or cheat, spouses' bosses who grope, coaches who berate, false friends who cajole confidences, business partners who steal, neighbors who instill fear and people who chronically hit up family members for bail money (or "deja moo"). Role playing "Action Plans" for conversation help firm up psychic independence and avoid pointless, draining argument. (Sept.)

Customer Reviews

A reviewer, KJ, 07/01/2003 Customer Rating for this product is 5 out of 5
Eureka! I am being bullied and I don't have to take it any more!
The interview and book about 'Taking the Bully by the Horn' was excellent! In the few minutes that she spoke during her interview about the characteristics of being a bully, I realized that I have been subjecting myself and my children to being bullied. Sam Horn's interview and book described my life for the past 10 years, and she has never set eyes on me! Since I have allowed myself to be bullied, I notice that my son also allows himself to be bullied. Now I can change that. Thank you Sam Horn!!